Showing posts with label Choices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Choices. Show all posts

Thursday, January 1, 2015

New Year's Resolutions part 2

I hope you spent some time thinking about how to make your new years resolutions measurable, specific, and realistic.  If you need a review, look here.

After I've got specific, measurable and realistic goals, I write goals into 4 different categories.  My categories are: physical, emotional, social and spiritual.  I do this because I want to improve in several ways, and in each component of who I am.

Physical goals are goals relating to my physical well-being (this could include fitness, financial, health, etc).

Emotional goals aid in maturing who you are.  A goal in this category could include giving service to one person each day (or month, or week - whatever works for you).  For me, emotional goals are the hardest to make measurable.  Something like "be kinder" is not measurable.  So think "what do kind people do?"  Do kind people give more compliments?  Smile more often?  Okay, now we are getting somewhere!  How about "Give a compliment to someone each day".  Specific, and measurable. :)

Social goals are also hard to measure.  I like to think "What do people who are social do?"  Well, people who are social make contact with other people regularly (and there is a goal!  Make contact with someone outside of my immediate family at least once a day/week/month - remember, this needs to be realistic for YOU).

Spiritual goals are going to be different depending on how you view spirituality.  For me, spiritually is related to religious practices.  So a goal could be "attend church services weekly/monthly/etc." or "read scriptures all the way through", or "pray each morning".  Each of these things will create spiritual growth.

I always write my goals in my journal (my journal is a college rule notebook), and make a chart that looks like this (and yes, in my journal the lines are just as crooked):


Then I put at least a couple goals in each category.

For example, this year, I want to become more physically fit (this is not a measurable goal, so I don't write that).  I decided a way to do this is to run a marathon.  Under physical goals I write "Run a marathon".  

There are some goals that could be in a couple different categories, so I pick the one that makes most sense to me.  After all, this is MY journal, and MY goals.  No one else will critique them.  A goal of "Save $1000"  could either be a physical goal (since money is physical), a emotional goal (having it makes you feel safe), or a spiritual goal (if you are in a better place spiritually as a result of reaching this goal).  For me, I'd put that goal in the physical category.  But, this is up to you.  Do what feels natural for you!

I like to look at my "bucket list" and see which of those things I want to accomplish that year.  Be careful to avoid goals that include another person to accomplish them (such as "have a baby, get married, become better friends with Xperson).  

This year, I want to learn to play guitar better (I just started!).  The first step is a physical goal - purchase a guitar.  The next goal is "learn to play all the chords" (I'm going to call this a physical goal too).  

I'm curious to what types of goals my readers are setting!  Please comment, and let me know.  If you need help making it measurable, I'd be happy to help. :)



Wednesday, December 31, 2014

A clean white elephant gift

I know I'm a little late, but here is an idea for your next white elephant gift exchange.

While preparing for a white elephant gift exchange, I spent a few minutes looking for a gift idea online.  I was appalled at all the dirty gifts ideas.  Most were sexual in nature.  I had an idea for a gift, and thought I'd share it!

Weights for beginners!



All that is needed is s couple large marshmallows, and bamboo skewers.  Put the marshmallows on the ends of the skewers.  I made a quick tag with a note "weights for beginners".  

It was a success at my party!  The recipient practiced lifting them :).  

If you try this, let me know how it is received!

Monday, December 29, 2014

New Year Resolutions part 1

Every year I make new years resolutions.  And for the past several years, I've been able to reach most of my goals.  Yes, really!

There are a few key elements to achieving goals.

1- Write it down
2- It must be realistic
3- It must be measurable
4 - It must be specific

So, one goal I DON'T make it to "be a better mom".  Why not?  Well. . . how do you measure being a good mom?  Is it quality time?  Is it patience? Is it activities you do with kids?  Some of those things are measurable... Make those MEASURABLE things your goals.

Another goal that is hard to measure is "learn to play an instrument."  How do you measure "completion" of learning it?  This again is where we get really specific.  How about "learn to play 'Stairway to Heaven'" as a goal instead?  Or "learn how to play all the chords of a guitar"? See?  measurable, specific, realistic.


Start thinking of a few goals you'd like to reach.  I'll write more about goals in a few days.


Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Resiliency

What does resiliency mean to you?

To me, resiliency is more than overcoming a challenge.  Resiliency is about growing stronger as a result of your struggles.

Every time we struggle, we can chose how to react.

WE CAN CHOSE!

So, we are meandering through life, when something comes up.

How are you going to chose to react?

Will you make the best of a crisis, and learn from it (resiliency)?

Will you get through it, and let life return to normal (homeostasis)?

Will you trudge through it, and remain bitter because of it (maladaptive)?


The choice is yours.  What will your legacy be?

What are some challenges that you have learned from?