Resiliency - Not a Linear Process

Recently I received a comment that I need to give step by step instructions to become more resilient.  I'd LOVE to do that, but since resiliency is a set of personality traits, it's not a linear formula.

Every person will have times when they are more resilient and less resilient.

When my mother passed away, I thought I was resilient.  When my spouse left, I shattered, and fell into depression.  But over time, I've been able to build myself back up.  And because I've had several opportunities where I've experienced crisis, I've had plenty of opportunities to rebuild.  This has made the recovery process faster.

Being resilient helps us both during crisis, and helps us rebuild after.  If we have done it before, it is easier the next time.

This blog is about both the science of what resiliency is, and also activities to help learn and build resiliency.  I know some people will only want activities.  Other people are more analytical (like me).  I'm also including skills that I hope will help people (cooking, crafts, etc) and books about resilient people (seeing resilient traits will paint a picture of how resilient people act).

I wish I had an easy step-by-step process to become resilient, however, that does not exist.  Instead, I am giving many different ideas, guidelines, and research showing how people have become resilient in the past.  By following these things, over time, you can develop these skills.

Please comment on what posts are most helpful for you, and what you enjoy learning about. 

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